64 | Changing How You Look vs Changing How You Feel
There is nothing (NOTH. ING.) wrong with changing how your body looks. But be honest with me— if I really pressed you to tell me WHY you are dead-set on changing how you look, would the answer be it’s because deep down, you want to change how you FEEL?
There is nothing (NOTH. ING.) wrong with changing how your body looks. But be honest with me— if I really pressed you to tell me WHY you are dead-set on changing how you look, would the answer be it’s because deep down, you want to change how you FEEL?
If you are on what feels like a lifelong quest in search of confidence, self-love, and inner peace with your body or yourself at large, but haven’t been able to actually get there yet, with those feelings just always seeming just a touch beyond your reach, this episode is for you.
We are discussing how changing your body has become messily intertwined with the expectation that it will result in changing how you FEEL about your body. Meaning: we believe the external appearance has to change first in order for our internal mindset to change.
This episode explains why that is 100% backwards, and how we can actually create what we REALLY want most for ourselves, right now.
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60 | “Later”: How Waiting is Holding You Back
LATER is where more time, less worries, and endless possibility permanently lives. Have you ever stopped to consider the sheer amount of life you are saving for “later”? And have you ever noticed how later never really seems to come?
Doesn’t “later” always seem to filled with promise? It’s when we’ll start that business or wear that bathing suit or get our act together somewhere in life.
LATER is where more time, less worries, and endless possibility permanently lives.
Have you ever stopped to consider the sheer amount of life you are saving for “later”? And have you ever noticed how later never really seems to come?
In today’s show, we are serving tough love and getting real around the concept of LATER. How it’s holding you back, what it really means, and how to start living that distant future version of your life, NOW.
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57 | Acceptance vs Giving Up: Will Self-Compassion Make You Lazy?
Do you fear that if you accept yourself as is, you’ll stop trying to improve yourself? Wondering how to find self love while still chasing goals? We’re breaking it down today, and hopefully showing you why acceptance or self love will NEVER be a detriment to any part of your journey.
Inspired by a recent re-post shared on the CrossFit Games social media, today we are talking ALL about the difference between acceptance, self love, embracing yourself, and self compassion, VERSUS giving up, apathy, indifference, and “laziness”.
Do you fear that if you accept yourself as is, you’ll stop trying to improve yourself? Do you wonder about how you balance those two concepts? Wondering how to find self love while still chasing goals?
We’re breaking down the difference in today’s show, and hopefully showing you why acceptance or self love will NEVER be a detriment to any part of your journey.
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Mentioned in this episode:
39 | The Problem with Progress That No One is Talking About
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50 | How to Become Unf*ckwithable in 5 Easy Steps
Listen in to learn the 5 things that can help you to reclaim your power, create a life you love, stand firmly in who you are, and make you un-fuck-with-able.
In our 50th episode, I’m sharing the essence of my mission with She Thrives. These 5 things are what I believe to be the ultimate tools of self empowerment for anyone, and the 5 things that drive most of the work I do here.
Listen in to learn the 5 things that can help you to reclaim your power, create a life you love, stand firmly in who you are, and make you un-fuck-with-able.
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49 | Fearing Fat: How We Internalize + Propagate a Fatphobic Culture
This episode is a conversation on how we can gain some perspective on fat, leanness, health, and “body positivity”, and create some more awareness around our actions, beliefs, and words in order to play a small part in dismantling the culture that hurts everyone— some more than others.
The holidays are here, and the reality for most people around this time of year is that they are likely to gain a pound or two from all the festivities. This possibility sends most people into a downright panic.
This episode today is about why fat is something we fear SO much. Why we freak when we gain some, why we idolize those who lost some, and why we feel like it’s our life’s work to get a 6 pack and keep getting smaller.
This fear (that has been taught to us, by the way) is not only a problem for ourselves and our own body image, but it’s actually propagating a long-standing problem for those who actually live in larger bodies.
This episode is a conversation on how we can gain some perspective on fat, leanness, health, and “body positivity”, and create some more awareness around our actions, beliefs, and words in order to play a small part in dismantling the culture that hurts everyone— some more than others.
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Mentioned in this episode:
Blog post | We Need to Talk About Body Positivity
7 | I Gained 15 lbs: What I Learned + What Surprised Me
12 | F*ck the Scale: 10 Ways to Measure Health Beyond Body Fat
15 | On Judgement: How to Put Down the Gavel
41 | Health, Hormones + Healing with Jessica Rothley
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41 | Health, Hormones + Healing with Jessica Rothley of Wholly Healed
Jessica Rothley of Wholly Healed shares her knowledge around hormone imbalances, food freedom, body image, and why she’s on a mission to redefine health, the NON diet culture way.
Jessica Rothley is a Certified Eating Psychology Coach specializing in Functional Endocrinology and the voice behind all things Wholly Healed.
In today’s episode she is sharing her knowledge around hormone imbalances, food freedom, body image, and why she’s on a mission to redefine health, the NON diet culture way.
We cover SO MUCH great stuff, including how to spot and address hormonal imbalances, unrealistic beauty standards, why owning our bodies is so important, how diet culture is hurting us, why it’s important to discuss taboo topics, how the idea of “balance” is working against us, and so much more.
Check out Jess’ blog + website
Mentioned in this episode:
24 | In Defense of an Unbalanced Life
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40 | Listener Q+A: “Dear Taylor” Advice Column
I’m pulling a few questions from my She Thrives Tribe (our private Facebook group) about body image, confidence, fitness and life, and sharing my advice.
You remember the Dear Abby column from way back in the day? Well we’re doing my version of that today on the show.
I’m pulling a few questions from my She Thrives Tribe (our private Facebook group) about body image, confidence, fitness and life, and sharing my advice.
The questions we cover in this episode are:
“How do I keep the drive to always be improving my health while also being confident and happy with where I am right now?”
“I love to workout, I love how it makes me feel, but I have a tendency to become obsessive with it. How can I keep it in perspective and keep myself from turning fitness into an unhealthy habit?”
“I have lost a lot of weight (140 lbs), but now I find myself never satisfied with my body. I thought losing the weight would make me more confident. I’ve lost my passion for the gym, which is very weird, but I just feel lost. How do I gain confidence?”
“How do I go about opening up to people around me about how I view myself and how I could use their support to help me be accountable to myself?”
Mentioned in this episode:
SHE THRIVES TRIBE | Join our private FB group
THE CONFIDENCE LAB | Learn how to become unfuckwithable
39 | The Problem with Progress That No One Talks About
37 | Overtraining: The Signs, the Myths, + How to Avoid it
34 | In Pursuit of a Feeling: What Your Cravings Can Teach You
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38 | Befriend Your Body + Move Confidently with Alyssa Chang
I’m thrilled to share this interview with my friend, @coachalyssachang, where we are talking about all sorts of amazing things regarding fitness, body image, nutrition, confidence, self compassion, and self care.
I’m thrilled to share this interview with my friend, @coachalyssachang, where we are talking about all sorts of amazing things regarding fitness, body image, nutrition, confidence, self compassion, and self care.
Alyssa has a B.S. in Kinesiology and is a Z-Health and Precision Nutrition Coach, and uses her online business to help people get smart about movement, and feel good in their skin from the inside out. Her motto is, “befriend your body and move confidently in your life”, and she embodies that with her focus on self care, self love, and living a happy life.
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36 | 10 Ways to Feel Instantly Better
Looking for a little pickmeup? Want some easy AF self care ideas? Want to feel more content and less stressed right this very moment? Here are 10 super simple ways to feel happier and more confident right now.
Looking for a little pickmeup? Want some easy AF self care ideas? Want to feel more content and less stressed right this very moment?
This episode has 10 super simple things you can do right this very instant (or at least today, or this week) that can get you feeling more confident, happy, and relaxed immediately.
From quick mindset shifts to tangible activities, this list should be a regular must-do to keep you feelin’ GOOD.
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Mentioned in this episode:
BODY IMAGE BOOTCAMP | Free video course
THE CONFIDENCE LAB | A step by step guide to your most empowered self
4 | Self Care Beyond Face Masks: My Top 10 Ways to Self Care
9 | Life Detox: The Clean Outs + Audits Worth Doing
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30 | Self-Confidence: The 3 Things Keeping You From Having It Right Now
The 3 big misconceptions about creating and growing self-confidence, and how to get out of your own way to live the life you want, right now.
Self confidence feels like the ultimate gold mine. Don’t we all want to like who we are and how we look, feel brave enough to take risks and follow our dreams, be comfortable being fully ourselves and not caring what anyone has to say about it?
But we all too often feel like there’s something stopping us from feeling confident about ourselves, and it’s usually born out of one (or all!) of these 3 big misconceptions.
Today I’m walking you through these 3 big myths about confidence and showing you how you can start getting our of your own way and feeling confident AF right now.
I’m also sharing a little bit about my new course, The Confidence Lab, and how it can support you through the process of ditching old narratives, embracing who you are, and going after what you want.
Mentioned in this episode:
THE CONFIDENCE LAB | Doors are open NOW, come join us!
BODY IMAGE BOOTCAMP | A free video training
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28 | Beach Season Reminders: A Body Image Pep Talk
This episode is the antidote to the mainstream “health and fitness” magazines, websites, gurus and bloggers who are offering you 382656 ways to freak out and overthink getting into a bathing suit this summer.
Bikini season is here, which means it’s time officially freak the f*ck out about everything, right?!
Um, no.
This episode is the antidote to the mainstream “health and fitness” magazines, websites, gurus and bloggers who are offering you 382656 ways to freak out and overthink getting into a bathing suit this summer.
Based off of this blog post, my hope is that this episode reminds you about what’s really important, what’s really NOT, and why every single one of us deserves the right to stand proudly in our skin, in whatever outfit we want, without any effort or work required, at the beach this summer (and, always).
Mentioned in this episode:
How to Get Beach Ready in 10 Simple Steps
15 | On Judgement: How to Put Down the Gavel
7 | I Gained 15 lbs: What I Learned, What Surprised Me, + What’s Next
In Depth with Elisabeth Akinwale
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20 | Own Your Glow + Crown the Queen Within with Latham Thomas
Learn how radical self care can be your biggest empowerment tool from one of Oprah’s Super Soul 100 thought leaders.
Latham Thomas is a doula and self care/wellness guru, author of Own Your Glow, and creator of Beditations: Guided Meditations for Rest and Renewal. Named one of Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul 100, Latham helps women embrace optimal wellness and spiritual growth as a pathway to owning their power.
She has served as a doula and lifestyle guru for celebrity clients including: Alicia Keys, Debra Lee, Rebecca Minkoff, Tamera Mowry, DJ Khaled, Venus and Serena Williams and more. Latham's leading a revolution in radical self-care, teaching women everywhere to “mother themselves first”.
In this episode we talk about SO much great stuff that I ca’t what for you to hear. Just some of the topics we cover are:
- What creative entrepreneurs and new moms have in common
- Why forcing things never works and what to do instead
- How self care can be your biggest empowerment tool
- How to level up and truly walk the walk to contribute to equality in today’s world
- Productivity vs the process ; what we do vs who we are
- The value of play and why we need it
And SO much more.
Follow Latham on Instagram, check out her Mama Glow website, and grab her book!
You might also like:
4 | Self Care Beyond the Face Masks
The Problem with Progress that No One Talks About
15 | On Judgement: How to Put Down the Gavel
People will love you, and people will hate you, and none of it will have anything to do with you.
People will love you, and people will hate you, and none of it will have anything to do with you.
The creepy mirrored funhouse that is judgement is a world that’s worth your attention. If you are someone who is constantly judging the way others are dressing, speaking, behaving, or otherwise living, chances are pretty good that you’re also being just as critical with yourself.
This episode is about how we can heal our relationships to ourselves, and be more happy, compassionate and at peace — not only with ourselves and our bodies — but with the world at large, through examining our judgements.
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14 | Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears + Love Your Life with Lauren Zander
Edit: “You aren’t afraid of the thing you think you’re afraid of, you’re afraid of what the fear is asking you to look at” is a quote from Shelli Varela. I forgot to give her credit for that line.
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14 | Cut the Crap, Face Your Fears, + Love Your Life with Lauren Zander
Living an authentic life, facing up to your internal dialogue and bad habits, failure, dreaming big(ger), and so much more: this interview with Lauren Handel Zander has allthethings.
Living an authentic life, facing up to your internal dialogue and bad habits, failure, dreaming big(ger), and so much more: this interview with Lauren Handel Zander has allthethings.
Her book, Maybe It’s You, instantly became one of my all time faves, and her no BS style is sure to inspire you to investigate the ways in which you might be getting in your own way of living the life of your dreams.
Some of my favorite lines from this interview:
“If you have no tolerance for failure, you don’t get to win”
“The minute you say ‘I’m not changing this’, you actually get that you could”
“We need to break into our own mainframe”
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12 | F**k the Scale: 10 Ways to Measure Health Beyond Body Fat
We need to stop conflating thinness or leanness with health, because the truth is, health comes in every size, shape and form. Here are 10 alternate ways to track your health.
Is there anything that the average American woman fears more than the bathroom scale? This tiny little piece of plastic has the power to make us feel happy, devastated, confident or ashamed, and even when we don’t want to be swayed by it, we are.
Beyond the scale impacting our mood, one of the biggest fallacies about the number flashing back at us is that it is a reflection of our HEALTH. And just isn’t that simple.
We need to stop conflating thinness or leanness with health, because the truth is, health comes in every size, shape and form.
This episode has 10 alternate ways for you to consider your health to help you drop the obsession with the scale and focus on the things that actually matter.
EXTRA READING:
Instead of Chasing a Goal Weight, Try This
7 | I Gained 15lbs: What I Learned, What Surprised Me + What’s Next
Fully embracing the seasons of life is a huge part of what I preach, and in this episode I share how I’m not just talking the talk, but walking the walk.
It's no secret that my body has changed over the last 6-8 months: I've talked about it very openly on multiple occasions, in recent interviews, on my Instagram, and in these blog posts here:
In Defense of an Unbalanced Life
Today I'm unpacking the story a little bit to be able to share with you in more detail the things I learned, the things that surprised me, and the things I want to share with you, as you go through your own journey and experience your own seasons.
This episode is sponsored by THE NUTRITION LAB, my 6 week, in depth nutrition + mindset program designed to get you to a happy (and sustainable) place with food.