142 | The Art of Doing Nothing: How to Let Yourself Be
The reasons we struggle to be still in silence, and how to break this costly habit.
The idea of sitting still, in quiet, doing nothing sends shivers down most of our spines. It brings us face to face with our belief systems about productivity and laziness, and more deeply, face to face with our own SELVES.
This episode expires why this pull towards constant distraction or busyness is so detrimental, where it comes from, and how to practice the art of staying, when you want to run.
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141 | Destination Addiction: The Seduction, The Fallacy, + The Cost
The many ways in which this sneaky predictive theory of our own well being is playing us, and how to step off the hamster wheel.
Destination addiction is easily the greatest detractor from your happiness and quality of life, though it's also the very thing that promises to ADD the most to your life.
So where does this come from? What does it look like? What's REALLY going on inside this phenomenon? And how do you stop buying in?
This episode takes you on a tour of this common mindset.
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140 | Cancel Culture + Self Sabotage with Africa Brooke
An in-depth conversation about what Africa calls, ‘collective self sabotage’.
Africa Brooke is a globally recognised mindset coach, business consultant, podcaster, and speaker who specialises in helping people overcome what is commonly known as self-sabotage. Her work takes a close look at the complexity and messiness that is the human experience, and she makes an argument for why we need to make room for discomfort. You can find her musing on the mic via her podcast ‘Beyond the Self with Africa Brooke’, or you can catch her pouring loose leaf tea while tackling necessary themes over on Instagram.
In this conversation, Africa walks us through her perspectives that inspired her widely read + shared open letter: ‘Why I’m Leaving the Cult of Wokeness’.
We talk about cancel culture, self censorship, chronic distrust of our own opinion, dehumanization, mob mentality, and the parallels between self sabotage and what Africa refers to as ‘collective self sabotage’.
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139 | 5 Things I Stopped Doing That Instantly Improved My Life
These used to be things I did ALL the time, and now they're not-- with massive benefits.
The 22 year old me wouldn't recognize (or probably even like) current day me.
My personal evolution has come a LONG way, and in this episode I am sharing 5 things I no longer do anymore that have had a tremendous benefit in my overall wellbeing-- and some may surprise you.
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138 | How to Stop All-or-Nothing Patterns By Being... All In
The ironic remedy for loosening the grip on punishing, extreme pendulum swings.
The vicious all-or-nothing cycles. I know you know them:
We are aalllll in and go HARD. And then something happens, and its not part of the perfect plan. So we bail.
We do this with food (#dietstartsmonday anyone?), in our careers, in our passions and hobbies, in relationships, in self care, and so much more.
If we can’t do it perfectly, we’re not doing it at all.
This episode is a walk through of what this mindset ACTUALLY is, and 3 steps to help you release the grip of these extreme pendulum swings and relentless behavior loops-- including an ironic twist.
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137 | Toxic Relationships + Difficult People: Part 3
A deep dive into boundaries, and listener Q+A
In our final episode on this topic, we are finally diving into BOUNDARIES: what that are, what they aren’t, how to set them, how to hold them, and more.
We recap our 3 episode stretch and end the show with listener questions that you submitted on Instagram, where we discuss guilt, resentment, highly reactive people, and more.
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136 | Toxic Relationships + Difficult People: Part 2
Taking a close look at the give + take dynamics and where your power lies.
We all have them or know them: that one person who is impossible to maintain an easy, feel-good relationship with. No matter what we do, we are on the receiving end of judgement, commentary, passive aggressiveness, or any other behavior we deem frustrating, hurtful, or annoying. We label them toxic and struggle to find our way through it all.
What makes these relationships so challenging?
How do we make them better?
Should we make them better?
This is the second of a THREE PART series that walks you through these difficult relationships.
Part 2: We explore the give and take dynamics from both sides.
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135 | Toxic Relationships + Difficult People: Part 1
Exploring your contribution to this challenging dynamic
We all have them or know them: that one person who is impossible to maintain an easy, feel-good relationship with. No matter what we do, we are on the receiving end of judgement, commentary, passive aggressiveness, or any other behavior we deem frustration, hurtful, or annoying. We label them toxic and struggle to find our way through it all.
What makes these relationships so challenging?
How do we make them better?
Should we make them better?
This is the first of a THREE PART series that walks you through these difficult relationships.
Part 1: I share the not-so-popular truth of your role in this dynamic with you.
134 | Body Changes + Building Confidence with Tiffany Ima
Tiffany Ima shares her personal journey navigating body changes and her best advice for building confidence.
Tiffany Ima is a content creator who’s history of overcoming disordered eating, over-training, and body shame has led her to share powerful messages of how she made a home within her own body over the years.
In this episode we discuss Health at Every Size, the Anti Diet and Body Positivity movement, navigating body changes due to COVID, and her best advice to help build body confidence, no matter where you are in your own journey.
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133 | 3 Reasons Why Your Willpower Sucks
No self control? Listen in.
If you're using willpower to generate a change in any area of your life, and finding it haarrrddd AF, chances are good you've had the thought 'man, my willpower really sucks!'.
Today I'm breaking down 3 huge factors behind what's going on, so that you can take a close look at what's truly standing in your way.
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132 | How to Let Go of What Doesn't Serve You
The fine print to the deep work
'Letting go of what doesn't serve me' is a great concept, and one I teach you how to thoroughly do (among other things) inside STA.
But there's some fine print to this idea that often gets missed, and is part of why you may find it easier said than done.
I take you through the details of how to actually do this, in this episode.
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BONUS 11 | We're Back! Some News + Updates
Hiatus: over. 2021: here.
Hello friends!
After a couple months off, we are diving back in to the show and I can't wait to share all I have in store for you.
This little chit-chat episode has some news and updates with what you can expect around here.
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131 | Loving Bravely with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
How our relationship with ourself impacts our relationships with others, with clinical psychologist Dr. Alexandra Solomon.
Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist, professor at Northwestern University, and bestselling author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want, and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. She has been featured in the Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.
In this episode we cover:
-The cycles of love: connection, disconnection and repair
-Why love is a classroom + what we can learn when we're paying attention
-What re-seeing, re-finding and re-setting is and how it impacts us
-The emotional risk of dating and how we can navigate it
-How COVID may have influenced our relationships
-Why asking and speaking up is so critical for relationship health
& lots more
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BONUS 10 | Life Update: The Adventure Begins
Some personal news.
In this bonus episode, I fill you all in on some life updates + news about a change that has been going on behind the scenes in my life for the better part of 2020.
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130 | 5 Ways to Be Nicer to Yourself Right Now
Start today; repeat forever.
Taking care of yourself is something that most of us associate with eating a vegetable and exercising. But if you're a listener to this show, you know that *actually* taking care of yourself is FAR more complex, and runs deep into your mindset, thought patterns, and belief systems.
Taking care of yourself starts with how you are treating yourself.
In this episode I share 5 simple ways that you can being taking better care of yourself (that is, being kinder to yourself), starting today.
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129 | Boundaries, Self Care, + Spiritual Wellness with Yasmine Cheyenne
Yasmine Cheyenne is a teacher, writer, speaker, and advocate on Mental Health & Spiritual Wellness.
Yasmine Cheyenne is a teacher, writer, speaker, and advocate on Mental Health & Spiritual Wellness. Through her work, she helps teach others how to create self-healing practices that can be used in their everyday life. Through speaking, her workbooks and courses, she helps her students navigate the tougher parts of self-healing work and integrate self-compassion into all areas of their lives.
In this episode we discuss:
Boundaries: Why they are so important and what we often get wrong about what they are.
The difference between acceptance + expectation in relationships
The analogy she uses to teach and understand our energetic limits
Why releasing + letting go is so vital for our growth
Navigating resentment & where it comes from
What true self-care is & how we can get better at tuning in
And LOTS more.
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128 | Minimalism Part 2: Digital Consumption + How to Start Pursuing Less
Our obsession with busy-ness, noise, and distraction has a cost.
This episode is a continuation of Part 1 where we introduced the idea of minimalist living and all that it may involve.
This episode goes further and turns our attention to the digital spaces with all the ways we continue to engage in consumerist and consumption based habits, with screens and digital noise.
I also answer your Qs about digital minimalism, and end with a series of steps, tips, and ideas for anyone who is interested in pursuing LESS.
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127 | Minimalism (Part 1): The Pursuit of Less
Our obsession with more has a cost.
We live in a More world, and most of us are deeply engrained in habit loops that keep us on the path of endless acquiring, consumption, and the pursuit of inherited and conditioned beliefs about what ‘success’ is and looks like.
This episode explores all of the reasons and ways that I personally have been drawn to minimizing everything: from decluttering my home, to reducing waste, to consuming less, to disengaging with the popular ideals of success in our current culture.
It is part one of two. Next up: Digital minimalism, answering your Qs, and my favorite tips and ideas to start some of this in your own life, if inclined.
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126 | Fatphobia, Diet Culture Rebellion, + Self Love with Virgie Tovar
Virgie’s path to self love, rebelling against diet culture, the intersection of fatphobia, racism, capitalism, and the patriarchy, how we can fulfill ourselves in real ways, and so SO much more.
Virgie Tovar has been a leader in the anti-diet culture movement, and it is a total honor to get to bring her on the show today for this in-depth and juicy interview.
We cover her path to self love, rebelling against diet culture, the intersection of fatphobia, racism, capitalism, and the patriarchy, how we can fulfill ourselves in real ways, and so SO much more.
Virgie Tovar is author of The Self-Love Revolution: Radical Body Positivity for Girls of Color (New Harbinger 2020) and You Have the Right to Remain Fat (Feminist Press 2018). She is the host of the podcast, Rebel Eaters Club (Transmitter Media NYC). She is a contributor for Forbes.com where she covers the plus-size market and weight discrimination at work. She has been named one of the 50 most influential feminists by Bitch Magazine, and received Yale's Poynter Fellowship in Journalism. Virgie has been featured by the New York Times, Tech Insider, BBC, MTV, Al Jazeera and NPR. She lives in San Francisco.
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125 | Fear Based Living: What You’re Actually Afraid of in Your Life
Lurking beneath the surface of all of our decisions is one MAJOR common denominator. One so powerful that when you get in there and shift that ONE piece on the ground floor, every single facet of your life opens up tenfold.
It’s all too easy to think that the things we fear are as simple as rejection, weight gain, uncertainty, failure, food, stillness.
But lurking beneath the surface of all of our decisions is one MAJOR common denominator. One so powerful that when you get in there and shift that ONE piece on the ground floor, every single facet of your life opens up tenfold
What would your life look like if you weren’t afraid of you?
Listen in.
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