106 | Thriving Partnerships with Relationship Therapist Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy
The pillars of healthy, happy relationships, 4 big warning signs and pitfalls, how to spot them and how to heal them, how to set boundaries in the age of social distancing, and lots more, with psychologist Dr. Mersy.
Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy is a psychologist and certified sex therapist practicing in Minneapolis, Minnesota. She specializes in sex and relationship therapy.
In this episode we cover the pillars of healthy, happy relationships, 4 big warning signs and pitfalls, how to spot them and how to heal them, how to set boundaries in the age of social distancing, and lots more.
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105 | The ‘Fitness Panacea’: Exploring Our Real Fears + Needs in the Face of Shoulds
Where you are turning against yourself, and pushing with shame instead of leading with love? And why is this actually SO important to be aware of right now?
It may seem odd to chat about food and fitness during a global pandemic, but the barrage of at-home workouts sort of left us no choice but to address the elephant in the room: the role (solution?) a lot of us rely on fitness to play in our lives.
HUGE amounts of data are hiding in our relationship to our bodies and how we take care of ourselves, what we’re avoiding, what’s driving us, and what we’re scared of.
Namely: Where you are turning against yourself, and pushing with shame instead of leading with love? And why is this actually SO important to be aware of right now?
Because you deserve to be on your own damn team.
Now, and always.
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104 | Craving Certainty: The Pull of Familiar Patterns in Unfamiliar Waters
We reach for what is familiar, EVEN IF we ALSO know that that pattern actively hurts or harms us.
In times of uncertainty, we reach for what we know: patterns, thoughts, behaviors, and more.
We reach for what is familiar, EVEN IF we ALSO know that that pattern actively hurts or harms us.
This episode explores this concept and gives you some ways to examine how you’re feeling and what you’re doing in uncertain times, as well as ideas to help you orient + ground yourself.
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103 | All That is Going Right: A Practice in Gratitude
If you had to thank this circumstance, what would thank it for?
The world is on fire. But is it?
If you had to thank this circumstance, what would you thank it for?
This episode is designed to serve as a reminder for all there is to be grateful for, even while we are in the trenches of uncertainty and suffering.
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102 | Managing Anxious Thinking: How to Create Calm Amid Chaos
The world is weird right now. This may help.
Feeling overwhelmed with the state of the world? Anxious, lost, scared, exhausted, or nervous?
This episode has some of my favorite, easy go-to strategies for meeting our most anxious moments.
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101 | Authenticity Hacks: 3 Ways to Live More True to You
Easy-to-implement tips and tricks to help you show up more authentically in your day to day life.
Authenticity is a practice that combines unlearning, communication with ourselves, and a dedication to honoring what we hear, even when it’s a little uncomfortable.
Whether you aren’t really sure what YOU want/would do, you’re at a crossroads, or you’re looking to be the same person no matter who you’re with, this episode has something for you.
This episode takes you through 3 easy-to-implement tips and tricks to help you show up more authentically in your day to day life.
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100 | The Episode 100 Spectacular Spectacular! 9 Experts Return + Share Their Best Advice
We’re celebrating with knowledge bombs. Nine experts return to share their best advice.
Can you believe?!
We made to episode 100 friends!
To celebrate, I have invited 9 of my brilliant friends back on the show to contribute to an EPIC episode of knowledge bombs and game changing advice.
Each expert is sharing their answer to the question:
What is one of the most unexpected or valuable things you have learned in regards to how to TRULY take care of yourself, in the highest sense?
Grab a note pad, get comfy, and listen in for some GEMS.
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Featured in this episode, in order of appearance:
Lestraundra Alfred @balancedles [10:15]
Steph Gaudreau @steph_gaudreau [15:05]
Alyssa Chang @coachalyssachang [20:15]
Dawn Fletcher @mentality_wod [25:50]
Shirin Eskandani @wholeheartedcoaching [28:15]
Kristin Kaschak @bigbrashlife [33:50]
Chrissy King @iamchrissyking [40:30]
Jessica Demasi @whollyhealed [45:15]
Kara Loewentheil @karaloewentheil [48:30]
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99 | Bad Body Image Days: 5 Ways to Support Yourself
We ALL have them: days where we feel uncomfortable, far from confident, or are viewing our bodies (or selves!) through a lens of judgement. But they don’t have to take you down every time.
We ALL have them: days where we feel uncomfortable, far from confident, or are viewing our bodies (or selves!) through a lens of judgement. But they don’t have to take you down every time.
This episode has 5 places for you to turn when these days hit, that can help you feel better and move into a more supportive and kind space.
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98 | Pleasure, Shame, + Purity Culture with Sex Educator Erica Smith
In this episode Erica Smith explores how our sexual health and (mis)education impacts how we see, treat, and engage with our own bodies.
Erica Smith is a sexuality educator from Philadelphia who provides private sexuality education, consulting, and trainings on a variety of human sexuality topics. Erica developed the Purity Culture Dropout Program to help people learn all of the sex education that they missed growing up in purity culture- sex ed that is accurate, queer inclusive, trauma informed, and comprehensive. She received her Master of Education from Widener University's Center for Human Sexuality Studies.
In this episode we are exploring a lot of topics surrounding sexual health and (mis)education, and also the parallels between purity culture and diet culture and how this conditioning impacts how we see, treat, and engage with our own bodies.
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97 | 3 Easy Swaps to Feel Great About Where You Are
Feeling MILES from where you wish you were? Getting bummed at all the detours and backslides and steps involved in the path you’re on? Let’s change that.
Feeling MILES from where you wish you were? Getting bummed at all the detours and backslides and steps involved in the path you’re on? Want to feel better about where you are right now, no matter how far it is from where you want to go?
These simple mindset shifts will change how you view where you’ve been, where you are, and where you’re going, and there’s nothing you can’t apply all 3 of these to for an instant perspective upgrade.
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96 | Perfectionism: What is it REALLY + What is it Costing You?
We wear “perfectionist” like a badge of honor, thinking of it as a noble pursuit of giving only our best and meeting high standards. But is it?
We wear “perfectionist” like a badge of honor, thinking of it as a noble pursuit of giving only our best and meeting high standards. But is it?
This show explores what’s usually hiding underneath perfectionism, and what the price you may unknowingly be paying in order to meet it.
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95 | Recovery, Forgiveness, + Healing Through Yoga with Maris Degener
Maris Degener is on the show today sharing her incredible story about how discovering the practice of yoga helped her heal, face her mental health, and recover from an eating disorder, which has recently been profiled in a documentary, now streaming on Netflix.
Maris Degener is on the show today sharing her incredible story about how discovering the practice of yoga helped her heal, face her mental health, and recover from an eating disorder.
Her story has been featured in many places, but most recently and notably in a Netflix documentary titled I am Maris.
Maris is a yoga student and teacher, as well as a UCSC psychology student. She came to the practice of yoga in high school after facing mental health challenges and has fallen in love with sharing the practice and passing on what has been taught to her. She teaches the Vinyasa Flow style of yoga, and her classes have been described as loving, passionate, and heartfelt. Her classes are intended to guide students back home to their inner power and to provide them with a mindful balance of movement and stillness.
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94 | When You’re Not as Fit as You Once Were
Feel like you’ve taken a major slide backwards with your health? Listen in.
You were strong, fast, fit, lean, [fill in the blank] and now you aren’t so much. Maybe you suffered an injury or illness, maybe life just got in the way, but now you’re trying to still feel GOOD about where you are even though it feels like a major step backward.
We’ve talked about this a lot around here, and it was still a highly requested topic to cover more of, so we’re getting into it today.
I’ve got considerations and four big things to help you feel as good about where you are now, as you used to feel about where you once were.
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93 | Self Control: Why You DON’T Need More + What You’re Actually Seeking
“I have no self control” —> If you’ve thought this about food (or anything else), or if you are constantly searching for ways to develop MORE or BETTER “self-control”, this episode is for you.
“I have no self control” —> If you’ve thought this about food (or anything else), or if you are constantly searching for ways to develop MORE or BETTER “self-control”, this episode is for you.
We dive into why this is something we grasp for, and why its actually just a proxy for something else entirely.
Spoiler alert: You don’t need more of it
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92 | Training Your Mindset in the Gym + Beyond with Dawn Fletcher of Mentality WOD
Whether you are training right now or not, you will get something from Dawn’s perspectives on facing failure, playing with fear, getting uncomfortable, how to make the process more valuable (and exciting) than the result, + so much more.
Dawn Fletcher is a peak sports performance coach who specializes in mental development and the founder of Mentality WOD; a site that helps athletes excel in training and competitions. She’s coached more than a dozen athletes to The CrossFit Games and many others to championships, podiums, and elite competitions.
She has a Master’s in Kinesiology with a focus in Sport Psychology, and is a Certified Strength and Conditioning Specialist with a Level 3 CrossFit Certification.
Whether you are training or in the gym at all right now or not, you will absolutely get something from Dawn’s perspectives on facing failure, playing with fear, getting uncomfortable, how to make the process more valuable (and exciting) than the result, + so much more.
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91 | Check Your Goals: Are They Really Just Raging Self-Judgement?
Sorting between the pull of a healthy dream, from the punishing push of trying to escape from our current reality.
The new year is here and goals are in the air.
While I always want you to dream big and live with intention and achieve the impossible, there’s a BIG difference between a deeply fulfilling process of moving towards something you desire, and chasing a destination that holds the promise of worthiness, validation, or fixing.
This episode gives you some some considerations to be able to sort between the pull of a healthy dream, from the punishing push of trying to escape from our current reality.
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90 | How to Become Unf*ckwithable in 5 Easy Steps
This replay will get you pumped up for the new year, promise.
She Thrives Radio just turned 2!
This week’s episode is a replay of one of our most popular of all time (originally played as episode 50), where I share what I believe are 5 vital steps in learning how to tap into that Big Unfuckwithable Energy.
This one will get you pumped up for the new year, promise.
Listen in and leave a review as a birthday gift!
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BONUS 8 | Holidays Got You Feeling ‘Off Track’? Listen In
Out of your routine and feeling unhealthy this time of year? This is for you.
Based off an Instagram post that you all clearly resonated with, this is a helpful perspective shift on the common feeling of being “out of routine” or unhealthy this time of year.
So much of the holiday season (even the difficult, painful stuff) is actually working FOR us, and this is a quick reminder on all the opportunities we have to explore all the other very important facets of health, beyond workouts and salads.
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89 | Orthorexia, AIP, + The Loving Diet with Jessica Flanigan
Healing our deepest selves, with The Loving Diet’s Jessica Flanigan
Jessica Flanagin carries a unique perspective on food and nutrition, as she is both a clinical nutritionist who works with people with auto-immune conditions in the pursuit of physical healing, while also being a spiritual coach who emphasizes compassion and healing of the emotional self.
We discuss the nuance, the gray area, and the myriad of considerations at play inside the world of eating, from developing orthorexia as a result of AIP, the ways anti-diet culture mirrors diet culture, to why we have such a hard time trusting our intuition on how to take care of ourselves, and so much more.
Jessica is a Clinical Nutritionist, Co-Founder of The Institute of Spiritual Coaching and is author of the first mind-body book about Autoimmune Diseas, The Loving Diet. She has spent the last six years of her clinical nutrition practice focusing on working with clients in Autoimmune Paleo, but has since moved on to more advanced functional medicine based gut restoration applications to remove restriction from her client’s protocols and work with clients struggling with disordered eating with her program Transformational EatingTM.
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88 | Boundaries, Toxic People, + Protecting Your Energy
Boundaries are SO HOT right now But there’s a lot about the conversation that I think we’re getting wrong, and that I think is doing us more harm than good.
Boundaries are SO HOT right now.
But there’s a lot about the conversation that I think we’re getting wrong, and that I think is doing us more harm than good.
Are toxic people really a thing? What do boundaries look or feel like? How do you go about setting them?
We’re digging into it all today.
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